The word ‘self-care’ is attached to a flood of clichéd mantras like “just be yourself,” “punch your pillow,” and one of our personal favorites, “choose happiness.” As much as people think they can talk through positive through anxiety, depression, or other mental illnesses, doing a little more is necessary; especially during the whirlwind holiday season.
Ke$ha, who has been open about her personal struggles, knows this all too well. The Grammy nominee recently wrote an article for TIME about self-care during the holidays after she noticed it was the festive period that triggered stress, anxiety, and ultimately, an eating disorder. For her and many others, transitioning into a long break can allow for thoughts to bubble and discomfort to manifest. Then on top of that, you feel obligated to extend your energy to everyone — ‘tis the season, right?
I want to say holy fuck!!!! i’m so thankful for my fans. and everyday i make a grateful list, even if it’s in my brain because it keeps me positive, and i’ve been doing that for a few years. some days it’s just “thank you for the ocean” when i’m down, but this year has taken me by surprise. i had no idea, one year ago, if this record would be what is now is, or ever see the light of day. and now, because of my fans and coworkers and family, i just got my first grammy nomination ever, and i got 2!!!!!!😭😭😭i can’t really believe it. it feels so insane and i’m so emotional and grateful for the support, and for all those who make this record a possibility, and then made it happen, and it all started with the fans, my animals. i know that you know that i love you, but this record documents the hardest part of my life and i am so so thankful that you were so patient and so receptive and so supportive. thank you x 100000000000 and btw any person in any category, congratulations- art ain’t a competition let’s turn the 2018 Grammys into a fuckin party 🎉
But she’s developed a mantra: “It’s not selfish to take time for yourself.” Decompression can be comforting when it feels like you have to be “on” with family or running errands with friends. Ke$ha list of ways to accomplish this is hardly exhaustive, and a place to start.
“Take a walk in nature. Talk to a friend you trust or a therapist. Sit out one of the holiday gatherings in favor of some personal time. Just do whatever helps you calm down and gives you a break from the stress. Download one of the many meditation apps for your phone. I particularly like ‘Calm’ and ‘End Anxiety,’” she says.
She also urges readers to let go of grandiose expectations that could potentially lead to disappointment. “It’s just another day,” she says.
Most importantly, she reminds us to simply take a break. It’s impossible to please everyone and it’s also draining. So step back, and remember that you don’t have to sacrifice peace of mind to keep everyone happy. Sometimes you just have to breathe, take a time out, and remember that it won’t last forever. You’re going to get through it.